I've said before that some of this may have been exciting and new at the time, but most of it doesn't age well. I've also said that O'Neill did the same then that Winick is accused of now: Sacrificing character for the sake of a soapbox.
Devin Grayson added word balloons in a flashback in her ARSENAL miniseries that covered what Roy and Dinah talked about while Roy was detoxing. That was how Roy and Dinah learned each others' real names in the story.
I once read two FANTASTIC fanfics about how the Teen Titans and the JLA reacted to all this. They were called "A Friend In Need" and "Not My Kid."