And there's another one: death of parents as touchstone vs. life of parents.
Even as a memory; consider that it seems most of Bruce's memories are kind of narcissistically tied (or filtered to fit--the most we know about his dad is that he was a doctor and dressed up as a bat once and kicked a little ass) his Batmanhood or their death; they're more ideas than memories to him, whereas it's clear it's the values of his parents, how they LIVE, that drives Kal.