that's how we like it here. If Diana is all about community, then submitting to her mother or her sisters or the gods, any instance when she does what someone else asks, there's an argument somewhere in there about that submission being anti-feminist.
Well, that's always been a tricky balance for me personally, because certainly, it's incredibly important to me that the people Diana submits to are her mother and Athena and Aphrodite, and not Clark and Zeus and Poseidon, or whoever. I mean, even assuming Zeus was a legitimate patron and not a spazzball of ruination and woe. Because while it's very true that submission to a legitimate authority whom you love and trust is a good worldview to have in the mix on an absolute level, when offered up in the form of a female submitting to a male, it carries all kinds of nasty problematic cultural baggage that absolutely does not need to be anywhere near Diana.
But on the other hand, the communal aspect of her character is, to me, central to her feminism (which is again, to me, central to her character). Community is a very feminine-gendered thing - whether by nature or nurture may be up for debate, but is also entirely beside the point - and that feeds off of and into a dismissal of community as something relevant to a hero. Asking for help is feminine, having a support structure is feminine, admitting the need for a support structure is feminine, being nurtured is feminine. Coincidentally, these are all also signs of weakness. I think it's important that Diana is a refutation of that, because it's a refutation of the idea that a woman has to be *like* a man, has to discard all things feminine (I would even go so far as to say authentically feminine, to delineate this argument from the "women who don't shave" bullshit), in order to have achieved equality with men. Because if the only way to be as badass as a male hero is to give up everything that makes you different from him, is that really equality?
Not that, as you say, this should be a universal conceit. A phrase that can pretty much without fail get my teeth grinding painfully is "men with breasts," because who the fuck are you to tell me Renee Montoya is not a "real" woman, and why don't you come say that to the face of the five women I know who are exactly like her? But I do think that "women who are heroes in traditionally masculine ways" are fairly well represented, comparatively, while "women who are heroes in traditionally feminine ways" are bare on the ground like snow in March, and we need Diana out there carrying that banner.
Which is of course much easier if you've got another woman up there carrying the other banner so people stop trying to give it to Diana,* making your suggestion of Oracle a pretty awesome one, because Babs very much *is* the tough loner from tragedy who makes her own calls and answers to no one, so there's your perfect demonstration right there that both paths are valid and important to maintain. (Also, Babs has a far more legitimate in-universe claim to a place in the center of the spandex universe than Bruce does, but the DCU has always been much more metatextual than not.)
* Whoa damn did I just have an interesting thought about Geoff Johns' writing habits.