Read the issue where he helps Plastic-Man get his kid out of a gang. Batman does NOT want to have to do his thing. "Do you realize the effect I can have on the mind of a child?' (or words to that effect)
Then theres the issue of Gotham Knights where Bats completely misses the boat on who killed a child's parents because he felt empathy for the kid.
Is Bats a dick? Most of the time yes. Is he that way to children, generally no.