Yes! I remember. I couldn't remember your exact words but I very much agree with those three thoughts of yours, think they're very well said, and the ideas influenced the way I worded things when I wrote this post.
Huh. I'll have to think about the Miller as bat/cat fan concept. Maybe in his own weird way? He does tend to include her. And then I think of this song some teacher had in her classroom in elementary school. It was about 'Helping'. It went: Some kinds of help are the kind of help that helping's all about. And some kinds of help are the kind of help we all can do without.
I do know this *above* is very different than DKR. And I'm glad.
ASBAR's apparently officially 'on hiatus' at the moment but I wonder if maybe Miller was going to continue humanizing Batman into someone more emotionally mature through his interactions with Selina and Dick.