The playing field IS equal, and no amount of pouting and saying you don't like the rules will change that reality. The problem is that, once you admit that the odds are not stacked against you but are, in fact, set up to give you an advantage, then you have to actually perform and be judged on the outcome of that performance. I can see where that might scare the heck out of you, or someone like the fictional Babs. If Babs feels that her leadership, knowledge, and skill are based upon only ever having to deal with female subordinates, then she hasn't come any further as a character than when she felt that wearing heels to fight crime might give her an advantage in the field. In either case, she let her view of cultural norms dictate her performance. Sad, really.