"You don't sleep with whores for sex, you sleep with whores so they don't starve to death," that's what my pappy told me when ever we went whoring.
I don't know what the solution is. I'm just pointing out if you know your Batman history back to The Killing Joke, you know that at some point both Barbara and Bruce have been paralyzed by enemies. You also know Bruce got better and Barbara didn't. Any comic with Batman and Oracle in it is just as stark a reminder of the abuse of Barbara's character suffered as a Booster Gold comic that makes reference to TKJ, because both are evidence to the fact that Oracle's tragedy is seen as something that shouldn't be changed because it's the best thing that ever happened to her.
Whether a dead Barbara is better than a disabled Barbara is something each person has to decide for themselves. For my money, at least the $7-ish dollars it cost to buy the Oracle mini-series, I like comics that humiliate Barbara. I feel any wheelchair bound character that has access to as many potential cures as she does and doesn't even try them out, deserves as much mockery as possible.