Yeah, n_y_d and I are as one on this and so many other things. I love Brian and Justin so much it fills my life, and yet I also love Michael. The only "obstacle" there has ever been to Brian and Justin being together is Brian and Justin. I didn't see other people coming between them when I watched the show, and when I got here and saw all these weird ass people ranting and raving at Michael and Lindsay for fucking with them, I was all...huh? Michael GOT THEM BACK TOGETHER in S4, for fuck's sake! Lindsay was the biggest Brian/Justin shipper ever. Did we watch the same show? I don't think we did, LOL!
And most of those people, really, are Brianites, and I have no time for that at all. It makes me want to pull my hair out and scream.
My feelings about Brian and Justin as a couple are the single thing about this show that lifts it out of a normal "OMG I love that show" and into an obsession I have never felt before, ever, and sincerely and devoutly hope and expect I will never feel again, but I love the whole big queer family, and I really don't care for the faction of fandom (mostly oldtimers, so this is a phenomenon that appears to be fading out) who consider every moment that anyone but Brian and Justin are on the screen to be a waste of film/digital imaging technology/whatever. I personally not only LOVE the rest of the characters and storylines, I don't think you can really understand Brian and Justin and their storylines without understanding the others.
Besides, it's not truly possible to love Brian and Justin as they were given to us without loving the people they loved. They were their family. To reject that is to reject them, and reduce them to paper dolls you can move around to please you because they're pretty. And that just bores the crap out of me. If that's what Brian and Justin were to me... well, I wouldn't be here, that's all.
So I don't know where or how I fit in. I just adore QAF, I adore all the regular characters, I love the Brian and Michael friendship, and the canonical pairing of Brian and Justin is, to me, the most beautiful and transformative love story, with the hottest sex and the most incredible chemistry I have ever seen in my life.
In fact, there are so many problematic definitions of "shipping" and all this fandom terminology that I barely understand, I'm going to stop using it altogether.