i have him as 45 and am totally fine with that age gap if it works for what you had in mind! we could say they just in together after his divorce? i want to say he was only married for a couple of years and that their divorce was an "i told you so" situation on her part. he is definitely the type to spiral into utter despair, so making sure he's taking care of himself sounds on brand. i imagine her dragging him into the bathroom by the ear and being like, "shower, you are offensive right now"