that's a-okay! real-life comes first, always. i think knowing he's got that good head on his shoulders is what makes her neglect to chase him down as much as an adult. she just figures, eh, he's fine without me and if he needs me, he'll say something. but maybe sometimes it'd be nice if she was as proactive with him as she is with their sister. i just love when things are a big, complicated ball where the blame is equally spread around. it'll take everyone being on the same page about making a positive change. a SURPRISE engagement is the worst platform to start from (read: i love it. give me all the drama) but they're here now, and they've got to figure out how to make things work.