she also sounds amazing! his formative exes were between his college years in boston or when he roamed around aka 2013 - 2019 so we might have to scratch that option, unless you're open to placing her elsewhere besides sf. as for the friendship with codependency issues, there are sooo many things we could incorporate but i was mainly looking for something where they don't know how to maintain healthy boundaries so they both trample over them, get hurt and/or frustrated, take it out on each other but then find their way back because they're ride or dies and deeply care about each other regardless. so lmk if you'd like to hear more before i tldr at you!
otherwise? they honestly sound pretty similar besides him not being anywhere near as fierce when he's tested. he currently has something going on with ~escrimas because he, too, is a massive flirt whose type is "cute and somehow into me" so yes can they pls be disasters together?? if she's the type who also is figuring out her life and does odd jobs, then they could've met through that! otherwise he's outdoorsy and likes going on runs, and they'll also probably have mutual connections who can introduce them too.