for the sister, she would be 36/37, and is extremely close with eli. they're from hawaii, and their father was in the army. they moved to new jersey when they were still young and their other two siblings ~lorrmar and ~kokana were born. when the two of them were teens their parents divorced and they were given the chance of which parent to live with. eli and his sister stayed in nj with their dad and the younger two went home to hawaii with their mother.
for the ex wife, they met in 2005 in jersey while he was with the club, had a really up and down romance before she got pregnant with their daughter lani who is 11. they got married when she found out she was pregnant with their second, kona. they had a lot of issues, but their relationship ended up blowing up in the end and they got divorced. they have a rough relationship, sometimes can get along because of the kids but it's not great.