she sounds really great! they're very different personality-wise. raf's not necessarily more reserved but he is quieter. that being said, he is pretty friendly as well and definitely a people person (has to be with his job(s)) but he does tend to keep people at arm's length and keeps his skeletons firmly in the closet as well. i feel like if he found out she had a daughter it might help because he just found out a few months back that he has a daughter and is still kind of learning how to deal with that. at the same time, it's kind of creepy to be all obsessive about someone being a parent, so i don't think we should go that route for an initial connection. maybe they met at karaoke one night where raf had had some drinks and was more relaxed and open than he normally would have been and they kind of started hitting up the same bar for karaoke each week without even really planning it and then made plans to hang another time where they could talk and get to know each other?