oh man, that's perfect! deftones could have brought them together somehow, she definitely would have wanted to start a band with him after learning that. 99.9% of the time back then she just wrote everything she wanted to say down, she's useless when it comes to sign language and that made communicating somewhat easier. sounds great! after college she was much different too, started talking again and generally acting more herself. i gotcha, by that i'm assuming their relationship was relatively short lived? he very well could have been the last boyfriend she had before getting together with her fiance.