the first born is 30 because that baby wasn't planned at all and was a major trial and error. colleen still had a lot of growing to do and still loved to party. her relationship with her oldest started out somewhat strained at first but it all leveled out. especially by the time their second youngest was born. by that time, they had more of a firm grasp on what was expected of her as a parent and she also had this kid with her husband now. (i'm thinking because i haven't quite decided on all of her marital details. i'm leaning toward saying she married her true sweetheart and that's who she is with).
the second child can be 23-25 years old and then they had one more who would be no younger than 18.
the family as a whole is like your average family beneath the goth aesthetic surface. lol the kids were encouraged to find their own niche in life, supported, and loved always (even to this day). no family is perfect, so the typical quarrels were present. i'm sure some other kids liked to pick on some of them because of their parents (leave it to colleen to show up to a PTA meeting looking like she was about to go to a rock show in her younger days). 💁 the rest is kind of a work in progress but they live in san fran now and it's the only place the kids know as home. they would also have a cousin in jessika.