sorting things out with the brother, but he's been in the bay area since late 2011 though those first couple of years were mostly focused on messy divorce and sitting the state bar exam. he probably wasn't being a social creature in any sense until 2013. i don't mind backing into something to the tune of being familiar with each other, knowing a name and a face so they aren't complete strangers, but we can definitely go forward and let things unfold however they will based on interactions.