no omg you're fine i love it
yes absolutely! i love that a lot and that's kind of what i had in mind. like people would always speculate "are they or aren't they". that would make sense too! especially because spring awakening was really taking off, and she was showing the world her boobs on stage every night and then going out to party...could create some issues.
if you go with him having spent summers in new York they could have known each other through that! she's native to new York, so that would be an easy way to bring in the knowing each other when they were younger connection. they could have even been made to audition together for something? she was a pretty shy and quiet kid who lit up when she was singing or dancing (usually tap dance) so there's that as well. LMAO I LOVE THAT she's really kind about her dietary restrictions like people will be like "oh did you want bacon with that?" and she's usually like "oh no thank you, and if possible could you cook my eggs not in bacon grease" like she hates the idea of inconveniencing people, but it's something she's very strict on. and i think he would have met her family, he just wouldn't have been invited to the big family holiday events like Passover etc. i have this hilarious image of his mom asking her what her Christmas plans are and she's like..."uh...Chinese food? i don't celebrate Christmas". oh i LOVE that idea especially because she would have been resistant to the ring too.
i've never been EXPLICIT about this but i always guessed she dabbled a little bit but not to the point where it was a problem/addiction. she probably would have tried stuff when he was around wanting to look cooler~ and all that. i really like that actually, it would be fun to pick them up in that weird awkward place of like "we have a lot of memories together...but from over 10 years ago who are you now this is weird" etc etc