yeah, it's a tough language! no one can blame her for failing at trying to learn on your own, it's super hard. when it came to cair/their parents it was very much a situation of trying to fit him into a "normal" mold so he was... i guess 11-12 when he first started learning asl at school, and at that point he was only home on weekends but he'd have been endlessly charmed if she took an interest in learning it on her own. and he and his fiance both identify as culturally deaf, so if she tries to learn it again, palling around with the pair of them is always helpful just on an immersion front.