are these bad traits something you can pick up on right away? cause i'm thinking if we go an ex route, they could have started off as friends and these were things that he could handle as friends but shit got messy when they crossed over into dating? my dude realized as a friend, yeah he could tolerate it, but as a boyfriend he couldn't stand it and i'm sure there will be stuff my guy has going on that would just be as bad/annoying. that's just one idea though and i can think of more, but it's just a starting point!