the ex is someone she met when she first moved to the LA area after finishing law school at Stanford. they met and were very much a fwb situation until that went on so long that they were basically in a relationship. but she never wanted to make it official, and whether he did or not is up to you, but either way she one day realized that it was much too real and she started pushing him away. i was thinking that was a few years ago, and now they occasionally have flare ups of relationship like symptoms and then she tries to avoid him for a few weeks after each time.
something like that! we could totally work out the nitty gritty/make any changes if you were interested!