"I'm not talking about money for you, I'm talking about financial assistance for Rose. I know that you don't want it for yourself, and I can't blame you. But she's entitled to child support. You're divorced, and whether it was by your choice or not, he should be obligated to help support her. You're going to need it, Nana. The costs are going to be high, and while you'll get some assistance from the government, it won't be enough. Promise me you'll think about it."
And there it was, that part of him that wanted to step in and take care of things, to do things his way. He stepped on it firmly. Nana wouldn't appreciate it if he just charged in and took over; it was her life, not his, and everything was ultimately her decision.