LYDIAS
It's not shoving off responsibility, though. Having someone watch her for a couple of hours so that you can, I don't know, ask Tony for a summer internship just so that you're still exposing yourself to something you care about as much as you care about your family, that's not shoving off responsibility. Something I'm learning in this place is that...you don't necessarily have to go all in on everything. And it doesn't sound stupid, I get that feeling. Barry's twenty-six; I get that. But you still have to make time to do things with the rest of them once in a while and I really don't think that anyone would look down on you for saying, hey Stiles, can you watch Mika for a couple of hours, so I can hang out with Allison? Or hey, Derek, I'm gonna go out with the girls for a few hours, think you'll be okay on your own? You know? It doesn't have to be all or nothing. You don't have to quit one thing to do another.
And if you don't want people to think you're living the life of someone twenty years older than them, then maybe the best course of action is to integrate them into your life and make them a part of it, instead of making them look in from the outside and form their own potentially inaccurate opinions on the situation. Malia? She's incredible with kids. Shocker, right? But she talks about Derek's son all the time, she goes over there all the time. And Stiles is like...a man-child, anyway, so he'd be fine. Let them be a part of it sometimes and it won't look like something so daunting. You know?