DEREK.
Okay, I'm just going to press pause for a second and say that you're actually being adorable right now. Like, I know that makes me an awful person because I know you're freaking out but it's worth mentioning.
Okay, pressing play. I can't believe that I even have to explain this part to you but the 'love you more' concept is absolutely ridiculous. Of course there are different levels of a relationship but being afraid that someone "loves you more than you love them" is stupid, because even if love was a measurable substance I think an ounce of it can stand up to a gallon. Love is love is love, and i hate you for making me say that.
And of course she's been thinking about you for six months. She's been thinking about whatever time you've managed to spend together, she's been holding onto it. Trying to squeeze happiness out of it even though it only hurts her now, and maybe she even tried to let go of it, but there's a difference between you and the idea of you. The important part is, do you think she knows how to differentiate.
If she doesn't want to go to Harvard because of you, that's stupid. If she doesn't want to go to Harvard because she's rooted here now, just like Steve is with the Tower and Tony, then you're going to have to accept that as her decision like I accept his. What is it that you're actually afraid of, what do you think is going to happen?