STILES.
Stiles, man, I'm saying this because I'm your friend, if I told you that you needed to get out there and your response was you couldn't buy a girl a drink and you haven't gotten out, the lack of results is on you. It's not going to happen overnight, people are complex creatures. Every single one is different, even when it comes to a one night thing there needs to be compatibility. You have to keep trying.
There are a few clubs around here that you can get into, then there are some jazz lounges... we'll find something.