But he does seem quick to resort to it when he feels threatened. [still not judgmental, but -- sad. for her, really. it would hurt anyone to think of someone they love as being capable of hurting them.]
I know that he didn't mean to hurt you. That he'd never want to do that. [he doesn't know the man that well, but he has no doubts about that] But it's hard to keep trusting someone who -- lets you down.