["If they're relaxed, you'll feel relaxed." She repeats these words quietly, letting them settle. Normally she'd argue that it's not true, but now that she honestly considers it, isn't some of her unease caused by overthinking interaction, how to do it "right"? How often does she just let talking take its course, not berate herself for her perceived social clumsiness even when conversation is going well? And while she's so busy analyzing herself, she doesn't read the other person very well at all]
I'll try to pay more attention to how they feel, and respond to that, then. [And then maybe she'll be at ease in turn]