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[ It's not even that Elena has had any private conversations, except with Damon that one time, but it's not about her. What gives Kitty the right to do that? Elena doesn't ask, because it would be entirely rhetorical and it's clear it doesn't matter to Kitty.
So, she could answer Kitty's oh-so-polite questions, or she could: ] Why don't you just check my private conversations?