Then it seems to me that you need time yourself. Wanting to please others, even if they are family, is not something that one should strive for.
[ She understands in a way. She had started out as a non-entity -- just an ideal for humans as to how a mistress of war and victory should be, of how wisdom and craft would have a patroness. She had to be made flesh as to how to learn things for herself. ]
Go out and meet people, Revive. Talk to them. Learn something from them. It will take time, but I know that little by little you might find something that you will like. It is how you make yourself.