He gives Spike a blunt look. "And you do realise that I've just spent a century and a half trying to distance myself from people? Change is possible, I guess, but it's not going to happen overnight! And I didn't even know it was a problem until a couple of days ago!
"And I have been talking to people." Well, Kitty. Because she called right after the fight, before he'd had time to sink into mope mood and drink himself stupid. "And apparently, yeah, I'm not that easy to talk to, but still no-one really seems to be able to tell me how to change that! That's what I need, Spike. I need to know whatever the hell it is that I do that makes me so fucking terrifying that he feels he can't talk to me!"