"The clincher there is, if a person is, to you, a reflection of yourself in their eyes, then...you'd have to know yourself in order to begin to understand anyone else." She paused a moment, taking another bite of the muffin.
"But I think that those you know can help you find yourself. They can't dictate who you become, but can guide you. Socratically speaking." She may had made up that word, but it made sense. Using the Socratic method.
This was all her way of asking I hope I can help what is bothering you?