Finding your g-spot and what to do with it when you do
I remember back in the 70s, Jill Johnston wrote a book called "Lesbian Nation." It had a chapter in it called "The Myth of the Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm," in which she refuted the classic 1970 feminist manifesto, "The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm," which is actually printed in its entirety here:
Johnston in a nutshell says that it's odd that she, a dyke, is telling women who have sex with men that yes, you can come from vaginal stimulation alone. She says women can, although as I recall she also says whatever gets you there is good... it's not about limiting how women come, but exploring all the ways they can.
I've never fucked a woman who didn't have a g-spot, but all women like different things, and that's good. Hell, I like different things sexually now than I liked when I was 20. :)
For those who haven't found theirs, and based on my belief that the research flame linked to isn't really accurate (I'm sorry, but a bunch of men sitting around talking about whether a woman has a g-spot, that just doesn't work for me -- it's not like a hand, it's just some tissue!), this is how you find it:
Sit on the bed, legs spread. Stick your index finger in your vagina, palm curved around your pussy. In other words, your index finger should be inside your vagina, and your palm should be lying over your pubic mound.
Press your index finger upward, in the direction of your belly. That bone you feel is your pubic bone; hook your finger around it. Now, keeping your finger tightly curved around that bone, slide it out, following the curve of the bone. You are firmly dragging the pad of your index finger around the pubic bone towards the opening of your vagina. At first the skin will feel smooth in texture (although there may be folds and wrinkles), but at a certain spot, the texture of the skin will seem spongey or a bit grainy. This is just inside the vaginal opening -- most women I know who can't find it are looking too deep, or perhaps have the deeper one and aren't turned on enough for it to be felt. If you really don't feel it, try again when you're very aroused.
It's not an organ, and I suspect in some women it's quite deep and only apparent when they're very turned on, but never in my life have I had my fingers in a women who didn't get spongy and wet and feel nice feelings there. And if you're really turned on and really patient, and you stroke that spot -- it's nowhere near as sensitive as your clit, so you can really work it, using your finger or a dildo or a vibrator -- the orgasm can blow the top of your head off.
Most of us when we masturbate by stroking our clits are also using the base of our thumb or the heel of our palms to directly or indirectly stimulate our g-spot, which I view as being the deep internal base of the clitoris.
In fact, the clit is really a vast ring of erectile tissue that runs down from the "pearl," circles both sides of the vaginal opening, includes the g-spot, and runs all the way down and surrounds our anus.
Men don't have anything like this; they have the penis, which is a clit that got so big the nerve endings are much more diffuse and thus, it's much less sensitive, and they have the prostate, which is the same tissue that makes up the g-spot in a woman. That's it... the rest of the tissue in that area is not erectile tissue.
So when you "envy" the prostate in a man, you might wish you had a spot like that in your ass -- although women do have erectile tissue around their anus and some women really get into being played with there -- but your g-spot and his prostate are, as far as I can tell, identical in sensation and sexual function. In fact, some women will ejaculate a lot of fluid when they come, and it comes from that area -- so it's perhaps exactly, not just sort of, the same organ.
The fact that researchers are DEBATING its existence completely blows my mind. How can you "debate" something I can touch? I get the concept that not every woman can touch hers, that we're all built a bit differently, but I seriously had no idea anyone was still debating the existence of the g-spot. Crazy! They should just ask, you know, a dyke. ;)