red, the clit is the only thing that works for me too... and I'm absolutely convinced it's nothing close to what a man feels. And I have literal envy now! It's so crazy. I used to laugh at the concept when men said it, now I realize they've known they had it best all along!! I honestly feel cheated. Have you tried toys? Penis does nothing for me. Vibrators... just too zzzzzttttt. Nothing.