I think I'm just a lesbian, because I don't actually like sex with men. I occasionaly theoretically think it might be fun, but i've mentioned this before, it's very random and generally for 5 or 10 minutes when a man is on stage singing to 100's of people just to me.
It comes down to this...if I were a man, I would totally want to fuck men. But I am not. So I would like to fuck women thank you. :D So I actually don't find my obsession with b/j all that surprising...well maybe a little. I'm not particularly obsessed with any other gay couples this way.
I have however been in an S&M scene before with male Tops, but not with them. I've always played with women, but occasionally there has been a male guest star, but it's non-sexual, in a whip-wielding capacity only. And that I don't mind. Which is code for, if they know how to use a single tail properly, and if they are just popping in for a cameo, and there is a female lurking somewhere in the background who is in the starring role, then fuck it, Yes Sir may I have another. :D
that's why i chose lesbian and just generally kinky.