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birdie (cyrano) wrote in gooseberry,
@ 2016-12-16 08:40:00

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! journal, saira raza, zz drop: bailey hartman

001: December 16, 2013.

WARD TO MARTINA FANNING, DIANA GAM, & ANTONIA PAPADAKIS:
Here comes my favorite part. Marty, you still dead set on skipping out on Winter Formal?
END WARD.

The sign-up sheet is now closed, and it's my favorite time again, i.e. the time I get to make some love matches. Actual love optional. But let me stop wasting your time. Only two days until the dance to get your corsage-to-dress color synched up, after all.


1. Ferdie Ayers & Iris Shacklebolt	2. Holden Bright & An Alapai
3. Cameron Carney & Ivy Templeton	4. Zeke Covington & Diana Gam
5. Teo Diaz & Ariadne Flint	6. Aiden Guthrie & Joanna May
7. Ennis Harper & Gabi Flores	8. Diego Morales & Penny Vargas
9. Chris Park & Avery Davenport	10. Jonathan Wilde & Saira Raza
11. Kurt Wolfhart & Coralee Wong	12. Jay Wood & Antonia Papadakis

I was also asked to find dates for Luis Pinheiro, Gavin Ogletree, and Maggie Gillis, but, if my stalking ain’t led me wrong, I’m pretty sure the three of you already have dates, so. If I’m wrong, let me know, and it’s not too late to get a match.
Again, as always with my matches, I can't guarantee you'll find the love of your life at the Winter Formal. Some people just plain don't have a spark, and that's just fine. But you'll definitely have a memorable time if you go in with an open mind and an open heart. I promise y'all that.

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:16 pm UTC (link)
	I read it. I read everything. You may have noticed this about me. It does not mean I agree. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cyrano 2016-12-16 06:20 pm UTC (link)
	Of course I have. But I'm saying if anyone would internalize that part, maybe they'd ask me why I made that particular match instead of getting mad about it straight away. Which part are you disagreeing with exactly? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:23 pm UTC (link)
	I'm not angry. Do I seem angry? My apologies. I'm partly amused, partly exasperated, and partly baffled. I did not request a match and I'm extremely curious as to who thought I ought to have one, and why. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 06:28 pm UTC (link)

Your tone seemed irritated at first, but that's all right. I'm glad you're not mad. Will you go with Wilde then? I really do have solid reasons for why I think it'd be nothing if not intellectually stimulating. Y'all probably won't date or nothing, but for a night I think you'd have fun.

I'm looking into it. I've got some hunches, but nothing solid enough to go on just yet. Or — do you already have a date?

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:29 pm UTC (link)
	Your mind works in mysterious ways. I intend to go stag. I don't have time for dates. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 06:32 pm UTC (link)

Easy thing to say when you ain't asked me to solve the mystery for you. I'm pretty upfront with my reasons.

I don't understand. If you're already going to be at the dance, how don't you have time to... let another stand next to you while you're there? I did all the work already, finding the person. What extra effort would you be putting in that you weren't already putting in by being on the Event Committee?

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:34 pm UTC (link)
	Go ahead, then. I'm only going at all because of Event Committee. I've set aside an hour. It's a waste of valuable quiet in the campsites to give it that much, but it's important to make some concessions to socialization. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 06:43 pm UTC (link)

You're a hard-working perfectionist who has trouble relaxing and letting go of control. You have high and exacting standards for yourself and for everyone around you. All fine, but you're not going to grow as a person if you don't interact with people who see and approach the world differently than you do, and you're not going to do much of that unless you're pushed into it because it doesn't fit into Your Schedule. You can't respect someone without intelligence, and Wilde is intelligent — he's clever, analytical, and, when he's not posturing, passionate about his ideas and principles.

But where you're tightly wound, he's a little looser, and where you're overly mature for your age, he's very much a teenager. So, by hanging out with him for a night, you'll get to spend time with someone who will challenge the way you carry yourself and the way you see the world, while still being able to keep up with you conversationally. He's a hard person to put in a box, Wilde, which is why I think it would be interesting for him to spend a couple of hours with someone who thinks she needs those boxes.

So, for that hour, hang out with Wilde. Again, I don't see the problem...? That even works out perfectly if Wilde's being honest about not wanting to go to the dance, because then he can just go for with you for an hour and then have the rest of the night to himself. Perfect match.

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:49 pm UTC (link)
	[...] You put a great deal of thought into this. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	cyrano 2016-12-16 06:50 pm UTC (link)
	Did you think I just pulled names out of a hat? This is really important to me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	sairaza 2016-12-16 06:52 pm UTC (link)
	Shockingly, I hadn't really considered your methods before now. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 06:57 pm UTC (link)

I carefully consider each name, what I know about them, what I can learn about them, who their friends, exes, enemies, and crushes are, their likes and dislikes, their strengths and weaknesses. Then I consider and judge, to the best of my ability, what sort of a match will enrich their lives in some way. Maybe it won't be love, but maybe it's a friendship a long time in coming, maybe it's a unique story they never would have considered for themselves, maybe it's somebody they learn something from even if they end up going their separate ways ten minutes in. I don't make my matches until the very last second because I don't want to fall into any biases or instant judgments; my job is to stay objective and analyze data.

Which makes it sound overly scientific about something that isn't very cut and cry, but my point is of course a lot of thought goes into this. Matching two people can take a week or more.

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 07:00 pm UTC (link)
	May I ask- and it can be difficult to be sure in text, so I want to make it clear that this is not sarcasm- what you get out of doing this? It seems far too selfless to be believable when you describe the method. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 07:04 pm UTC (link)

I don't really think of it as selflessness? I mean, like I said, it's important to me. I've been interested in relationships — familiar, platonic, romantic — my entire life, and I know it's what I want to work in the field of when I graduate. So I feel like I get more out of this than other people do. The more matches I make, the more I learn through my successes and failures about human nature and the way we can all fit with each other. It's intellectually stimulating, and, in my view, it's nice of people to trust me to continually improve my skills and push them in new directions — when they actually sign themselves up, that is.

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	sairaza 2016-12-16 07:06 pm UTC (link)
	I assume it's beneficial when people volunteer themselves, yes. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

cyrano
2016-12-16 07:44 pm UTC (link)

That's the ideal, but, honestly, I don't get too upset to find out people have been volunteered. Sometimes they're too shy or ascribe a stigma to blind dates like they're lesser or more embarrassing than having someone ask you. So they won't sign up, but they'll go if they like their date. Sometimes a friend is trying to do their introverted friend a favor, and same deal. I only get mad when it's mean-spirited. I'm not trying to ruin a person's day or nothing.

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