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Romeo García-Davies (rgarciadavies) wrote in finnigans_rpg,
@ 2014-10-02 13:56:00

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I am Romeo Matías García-Davies. Some of you may know me from our time together at Hogwarts. Some may know me from my job cooking at Finnigan's. Some may not know me at all.

I am queer.

If I had to define my gender, I would call myself somewhere between gender fluid and gender neutral. I look like what society would categorize as "a boy", but I do not feel like one. Nor do I feel like a girl. I am floating somewhere comfortable in the middle, a metaphoric foot in the male camp because of my presentation, but the rest of my being gloriously free of the gender binary imposed upon us by society.

If I had to define my sexuality, I would call myself definitely pan...something. I don't see gender as a barrier to love or attraction. With that said I don't necessarily know if I am pansexual... perhaps I am simply panromantic and asexual.

So that is me.

I know there are other people out there who, like me, don't conform to the neat little boxes the world would like to put us in. Maybe you don't fit the gender binary. Maybe you aren't neatly heterosexual. I would like to start a group for all of us to gather, support each other, and talk about the particular issues we face. This is not your school-era Gay-Straight Alliance. This is a utopia. A Queer-topia, if you will. And it is coming soon, if there is enough interest.

(You can make your replies private to me if you are nervous/cautious/not out.)

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rgarciadavies
2014-10-02 11:16 am UTC (link)

Actually, did you know that originally, pink was given to boys and blue to girls?

Pink was seen as the derivative of red, which was a warlike, strong, passionate color, suitable for men - and blue was the color that the Virgin Mary wears in most depictions of her, so it was a suitably chaste, virtuous and placid color for young girls to wear. According to my own research, this changed in roughly the 1940s, for various reasons.

But you are right. What is gender, anyway? What about you makes you either a man or a woman? I find, for myself, that I have no strong ties to either. I am somewhere outside of sports versus ballet, of action figures versus baby dolls, of playing superheroes versus playing house. So many stereotypes about what a boy or a girl ought to be, and so foolish, all of them!

I think really what it is, is that when a person is born, the doctor or healer delivering the baby looks between the legs and declares "it's a boy" or "it's a girl" and from that moment, society's preconception of what the child should be take over. Subconsciously girls are coddled more, boys are told to "be a man, don't cry", girls are compelled to "be ladylike"... and oh, to me, it is so silly. If and when I have a child, I almost feel like I would not tell anyone their gender until my child is old enough to decide for themself and tell people on their own terms!

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