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Roger James Timothy Davies (rogeringdavies) wrote in finnigans_rpg,
@ 2014-09-30 17:02:00

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Okay, so I have a wedding to go to in a couple of weeks. So I have some questions to ask the glorious masses:

1) What the hell do you get a couple with bank accounts that generate interest comparable to the GDP of number of small countries? I mean I don't think they'd actually care, but you know.

2) Anyone good at avoiding familial obligations and want to teach a boy the ropes?

[Warded to Marcus]
Aha so remember how I mentioned mum thinks we're dating? Apparently the entirety of my family does to. Up for a wedding? I promise you won't have your out ~~Unless you want to. Oh Merlin please~~

[Warded to Melinda]
So my cousin's fiancée wants something "magical" for her cake...

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_melinda_
2014-09-30 10:51 am UTC (link)

For couples like that, you give them something that can't be bought for money, an experience, a memory, or something that they wouldn't have thought of themselves. That could be a donation to charity in their name, a performance of some sort (like a song you think would suit them or make them feel happy sung by someone with a lovely voice or played on, I don't know, trumpet. You get the gist)

I'm not good at that kind of avoidance, so I'll spare you my advice there.

Finally, by "magical" I sure don't hope she means a Potioned cake...

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rogeringdavies
2014-09-30 01:12 pm UTC (link)

Hmmm good point. I'll talk to mum, see what she says.

Damn it, I can feel the claws of that side of the family digging in. Hiding the whole magic thing is hard when you know the people.

Ugh I still want to help Oliver strangle that stupid tart. No, not potioned. I'm thinking more they fired their old cake decorator and I was wondering if you wanted someone to pay you ridiculously hug sums of money to make a beautiful cake?

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_melinda_
2014-09-30 01:22 pm UTC (link)

It's just what I've seen done at different weddings I've been present at. I hope you find something. Acually, I'm sure you'll find something.

I can only imagine how hard that will be, so maybe play the aloof card and only pay close attention to... someone, anyone, who can be trusted not to out you if you slip and magic slips out.

You will have to get in line, it seems, but I will issue the same threat to you as I did to them: Don't you dare! I'm not having either of you in trouble because of someone like that. You're far too valuable for that.

I can make beautiful cakes and though it may be considered bad for business, a ridiculously huge sum of money is only depending on how long I have to prepare it and how many it needs to feed. I'd be happy to do a consultation with her, unless she wants to be surprised, in which case I simply need to know which cake and filling she prefers (I'll Owl you the list of what I make, though I will make anything, even if it's not on the list), colour scheme and delivery time and location. Oh, and of course, I also need to know how many guests it's for.

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rogeringdavies
2014-09-30 03:56 pm UTC (link)

I will definitely keep it in mind. If only I could reveal my magic and do something spectacular. That'd be pretty awesome.

Aw Mel, you ruin my fun!

Now don't you dare talk her out of paying you exultantly! She's determined to place a huge dent in her mother's bank account as a sort of final stuff you gesture, and I talked up how amazing your cakes are! I'll owl you her address so you can go and have a consultation yeah?

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_melinda_
2014-10-01 02:48 pm UTC (link)

It would. Instead you get to shine with your extraordinary imagination and consideration, right?

I know, I'm sorry, but I really would be happier if you weren't in trouble.

I will do no such thing! However, I will be certain to get her what she's paying for, because even if it is a Muggle thing, that doesn't mean that I won't make sure to live up to Sweet Nothings' reputation. When did you say this is again?

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	Warded to Roger marcedflint 2014-09-30 11:17 am UTC (link)
	I had taken that with a grain of salt, seeing as you were on a number of pain potions at the time you mentioned it. ~~If I'd known you were serious~~ Is this the Muggle half of your family? (Reply to this) (Thread)

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rogeringdavies
2014-09-30 01:24 pm UTC (link)

Ha, Marcus darling I remember everything I say when I'm on potions - I just don't filter everything. ~~Oops shouldn't have written that~~

It is! It's my mum's family. Like I said you come, you dance with me, you meet my mum and my cousins and Aunts and Uncles who are all surprisingly nice and then you may have to share a room with me, but I swear I won't get fresh with you.

So what do you say?

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	Warded to Roger marcedflint 2014-09-30 10:24 pm UTC (link)
	~~I noticed.~~ I suppose I can do that. ~~It's not like I'm capable of telling you 'no'~~ Though I have no idea what Muggle weddings are like, so you'll wind up having to explain things, I'm sure. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Warded to Marcus rogeringdavies 2014-10-01 02:54 pm UTC (link)
	Yes! I love you a little bit, did you know that Marcus Flint? The wedding'll be fine, I'll buy you a tux and I'll help you get dressed and we can... work something out for the bed when the time comes. It'll be nice to have someone to be a buffer against my family. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Warded to Roger marcedflint 2014-10-01 03:47 pm UTC (link)
	~~Do you say things like that just to drive me insane?~~ I can certainly understand needing buffers against family members, at least. What is a 'tux'? (Reply to this) (Parent)

	quirkybeater 2014-09-30 12:19 pm UTC (link)
	Have you tried looking at their wedding registry? If nothing else, it should give you an idea of things that they like, want, and need. A nice little look into their personalities. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	rogeringdavies 2014-09-30 01:25 pm UTC (link)
	Ugh see Agnes wanted to have a wedding registry, but her mother said it was too common. So I just... sort of am left going WHAT DO I GET YOU? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

quirkybeater
2014-09-30 06:26 pm UTC (link)

Then ask! You won't be left guessing and hoping for the best. You'll be told some ideas at least, and you can pick and choose from there. And, when in doubt, anything homemade and personal/personalised is a good way to go. It shows you put a lot of thought and effort into it. For instance, I assume they'll have a photographer? You could pay for and customise a few frames for pictures that they can put into the frames. If they like coffee or tea or wine, you could have cups or glasses made with their names and wedding date on them, or anything else on them you think they'd like. There's something called a ring bowl that you could make with their initials and dates, and it'd be something to ring bearer uses to carry the rings if they're having a ring bearer. There's also, if you can, getting pictures of them and making custom coasters, which is a little silly sounding but it's got that personal touch. I've also seen some customized pillowcases that match the bride and groom (such as "his" and "hers" and "Mr." and "Mrs." pillowcases).

If you're going for more practical items, there's barware, beach towels for any potential beach holidays, gift certificates to stores or restaurants they might like (which could make for a nice, romantic dinner for them), luggage for the honeymoon, tea kettle with nice teacups, baking ware (especially if anyone is a baker or cook), flatware, fine china, casual china, a nice set of knives, extra picture frames for all the photos they'll likely have from their wedding and honeymoon, possibly a wedding album or a nice album for the photos to go into, extra towels in general, extra bedding in general, and anything storage related. If you know where they're going to honeymoon, you could arrange a couples massage if it's somewhere that has a spa and pay for the massage yourself or pay for one more local. You can buy items that correspond with their hobbies and leisure activities (such as tents if they're campers).

That's all I can think of off the top of my head.

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	rogeringdavies 2014-10-01 03:37 pm UTC (link)
	Oh come on Orla, that's far too logical! But you give excellent advice. I'll talk to Cyprian today sometimes, poor thing is only twenty-two. They did just buy a house so maybe I could get something for that. How are you anyway? Miss me yet? (Reply to this) (Parent)

	pandacharms 2014-09-30 12:27 pm UTC (link)
	Be busy. Be very very busy. So you'll always have a true excuse. And never let them corner you. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	rogeringdavies 2014-09-30 01:26 pm UTC (link)
	That is great advice actually! Thank you darling! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pandacharms 2014-09-30 09:33 pm UTC (link)
	It works a lot of the time with my aunt, but not always. I wish I could feel I had to use it with my other family. I miss them You're welcome. (Reply to this) (Parent)

unspeakableness
2014-09-30 12:33 pm UTC (link)

It's predominately all about being busy. With work. With friends. With charity functions. With whatever is a viable thing to be busy with. Occasionally, you'll have to show up or the "being busy" excuse will start to fade as a viable reason that you cannot attend a family function. And don't say you've got work or something important sounding just to wind up at the pub. One way or another, that will get back to them and bite you in the ass.

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	rogeringdavies 2014-09-30 01:37 pm UTC (link)
	Ahhhh perfect. I can definitely use training as an excuse! Also something tells me you've experienced the whole "working" while actually being at the pub thing? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	unspeakableness 2014-09-30 06:29 pm UTC (link)
	Possibly not in the same way you might be thinking of it, but, yes, I've been seen at places other than work (or home), and my parents have been told. They were not amused that I could wave off an invitation to be set up on a date but had time to "fool around" doing other things. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	pandacharms 2014-09-30 09:48 pm UTC (link)
	Been there, done that, not pleasant at all. Which is why I try to be very truthful about things, or find somewhere very far away to be. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	marrededge 2014-09-30 02:12 pm UTC (link)
	I really must learn to read rather than skim. It took me a moment to realize you didn't have your own wedding to go to in a few weeks. I was almost worried there for a second. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	rogeringdavies 2014-09-30 02:41 pm UTC (link)
	Oh Rowena! Thank goodness it's not! I don't have anyone to marry, though mum would probably be delighted? Don't worry though darling, you'd definitely know if I was getting married! (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	marrededge 2014-09-30 03:09 pm UTC (link)
	There is always someone to marry. Now, whether it would be a decent marriage is up for debate. Though I honestly can't see you settled down any time soon. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	rogeringdavies 2014-09-30 03:52 pm UTC (link)
	This is very true dear! Very, very true however; I don't know that I could marry someone I didn't love or like. As for settling down, well there is one particular gentleman that I'd definitely settle down with. But I don't know if he's interested. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Roger marrededge 2014-10-02 02:03 am UTC (link)
	Wait, what? I've obviously missed something. Spill. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Marietta rogeringdavies 2014-10-03 02:59 pm UTC (link)
	Well I'm sort of ~~a lot~~ a little in love with Marcus, because um, yeah. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Marietta marrededge 2014-10-04 12:40 am UTC (link)
	How in Merlin's sweet name did I miss this? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Roger rogeringdavies 2014-10-04 04:00 pm UTC (link)
	I don't know! I... I don't imagine I'm very subtle about it. I spent a solid ten minutes staring at him frowning in concentration during a pre-match tactics talk the other day. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Re: Roger marrededge 2014-10-05 05:58 am UTC (link)
	That explains it then. I've not been at your pre-match conferences. (Reply to this) (Parent)

friendlyjustin
2014-09-30 04:12 pm UTC (link)

I'll answer your questions because I:

1- managed to find a gift for my cousin on her wedding day and she was so happy she cried.

2- Managed to skip her brother's wedding the year after.

Here we go:

1- Something handmade. I know it sounds cheesy, but a quilt, oven mitts, a basket of pampering stuff.. all works. Because it's not the cost that's important at this point, it's the feeling behind it. (My cousin's words)

2- Work. I'm not saying you should lie, but I often manage to accidentally have a emergency shift when there are family functions.

Hope this helped.

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	rogeringdavies 2014-10-01 04:15 pm UTC (link)
	Thanks matey. I like the idea although I'm crap at making things and have to weigh up appearances versus getting them something they'll like. I could get oven mitts for their maid I suppose? But more to them I like the idea. Yes! Work! If only I trained as much as some people work. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	friendlyjustin 2014-10-01 05:57 pm UTC (link)
	I'm crap at making things too, but I buy handmade stuff a lot, you just need to know where to go. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	snitch_snatcher 2014-09-30 09:51 pm UTC (link)
	I would say, something meaningful to them as a couple. Pictures, art, something from a place they particularly enjoyed together? Or something special for them to do together. I would make a recommendation on that, but my own mother is here and I cannot really complain. The only thing I try to avoid lately is my sister's fashion events. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	rogeringdavies 2014-10-01 04:13 pm UTC (link)
	Oooh thanks Vik, that seems to be the general consensus! This is because you're a good man though! (Reply to this) (Parent)