![[info]](https://www.insanejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small}
![[info]](https://www.insanejournal.com/img/community.gif){kind=small}
Comment placement
I know it's anal and OCD of me and that I have no right to actually say anything and I should just keep my mouth shut and be happy anyone comments at all...
but it irks me when people see a post, see a link to a fic (that's still within the same system, and doesn't have any restrictions on who can and cannont comment) click the link, go read the fic, and then come back to the other post to comment on the fic.
I mean, it would, at best, baffle us if someone read one of our entries and consistently left a comment pertaining to it on different entries instead of the one they just read. This isn't any different.
And I know I have no right to actually complain but it bothers me. More than just being OCD. It bothers me. I know I'm imagining shit and that it's not true, but sometimes it feels like there's the implication that it's not good enough, that they'd be ashamed to be seen saying anything positive to it, so they say so in less obvious places. Like the person who's nice to you only when the others aren't around. Exaggeration? Maybe a bit. But there's the fact they have to take that extra step to go back making it a little more effort and putting them a little more out of the way to deliberately avoid actually commenting to the fic that makes me wonder.
It's gotten to where I'm getting sorely tempted not to post to places that don't allow comment-locking. Sure, I'm probably keeping a lot of people from saying something by doing so, but if it's too much trouble to actually comment to the entry with the content in question, I'd rather you didn't because I don't like the way it feels like a backhanded compliment.
But it's stupid of me and I know it. How do I shut up and get over it to where it stops bothering me, because I know it's stupid and bitchy and entitlement whorish and I know I'm not allowed to feel like this. I'm not even sure who I'm ranting about -- myself, for feeling like this when I should be grateful no matter what for any comment I get, or people who take extra measures to avoid commenting on the actual fic post. I just know it bothers me, whether or not it's okay.
but it irks me when people see a post, see a link to a fic (that's still within the same system, and doesn't have any restrictions on who can and cannont comment) click the link, go read the fic, and then come back to the other post to comment on the fic.
I mean, it would, at best, baffle us if someone read one of our entries and consistently left a comment pertaining to it on different entries instead of the one they just read. This isn't any different.
And I know I have no right to actually complain but it bothers me. More than just being OCD. It bothers me. I know I'm imagining shit and that it's not true, but sometimes it feels like there's the implication that it's not good enough, that they'd be ashamed to be seen saying anything positive to it, so they say so in less obvious places. Like the person who's nice to you only when the others aren't around. Exaggeration? Maybe a bit. But there's the fact they have to take that extra step to go back making it a little more effort and putting them a little more out of the way to deliberately avoid actually commenting to the fic that makes me wonder.
It's gotten to where I'm getting sorely tempted not to post to places that don't allow comment-locking. Sure, I'm probably keeping a lot of people from saying something by doing so, but if it's too much trouble to actually comment to the entry with the content in question, I'd rather you didn't because I don't like the way it feels like a backhanded compliment.
But it's stupid of me and I know it. How do I shut up and get over it to where it stops bothering me, because I know it's stupid and bitchy and entitlement whorish and I know I'm not allowed to feel like this. I'm not even sure who I'm ranting about -- myself, for feeling like this when I should be grateful no matter what for any comment I get, or people who take extra measures to avoid commenting on the actual fic post. I just know it bothers me, whether or not it's okay.