haesselmaas (haesselmaas) wrote in eskimo_kiss, @ 2010-04-17 00:00:00 |
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Current location: | in an outrage! |
Current mood: | frustrated |
Current music: | my sis sleeping beside me... |
Entry tags: | [character] ben steinkamp, [discussion] characters |
Beware of the crush-inviting smile!
Ben is starting to seriously annoy me. Him and all the other guys like him. Too charming for their own good.
It's not that he's good-looking (he is, though) and that all girls are drawn to him. It's that he's flirting, appearently without realizing it. Deniz did that too, in the DeVa period (Yeah, I know it's painful to think about, but I do have a point in bringing it up). Roman told him off about it: "Do you even notice the way you talk to those girls? You flirt, always and with everyone." "That's bullshit" "It's not bullshit. You flirt with the models, with the fans. You flirt with me." (etc.) OK, I know, Deniz probably wasn't as clueless about his actions toward the models as Ben is with Katja, but I still think it fits.
There was a guy at my school that did that too. He had been to Russia (where the rules of decency are more strict, appearently) and brought back a very gentlemanly behavior to a country where that's not very usual. I mean, you tell me, girls, what would you think if a guy was holding the door for you, offering to carry your bag, offering to pay for you and actually listened to what you said? Is it very unpredictable that I thought he was flirting and started to develop a crush on him? And I realize that some of the fault lie in the fact that if it was more normal for guys to do that sort of thing with girls, I wouldn't have been so flattered by the fact. But other than that (and here is where I get to the point) I think it's common decency for a guy to watch what he says to a girl IF HE IS NOT INTERESTED! Stop leading her on!
I'm not saying that Ben should automatically become a mind-reader over night and suddenly realize Katja's feelings, but even he should realize that you don't hug a person so many times (really close too), smile at them a lot, give them presents and take a special interest in their lives IF you are not in a position to return the feelings he creates. In the words of a manga I once read: "Don't make a person fall in love with you unless you are ready to catch them!"
Btw, this also goes out to Christian (from VL). Rebecca may not be my favorite person (I would say she's, like, 3000# on the list) but in this case it fits. He needs to open his eyes, see that she's in love with him and then STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HER! I think most fans would agree to that...