Re: [phone call]
[Real disgust for the story.] I had no idea anything like that was happening or I would have gotten between them then. I had a feeling he wasn't good for her, but I had no idea it went so far.
I don't want her around him either, but we also need to be careful not to drive her away. If she still cares about him, trying to forbid her from seeing him is only likely to make her spiral more. She's obviously in shock, based on what she said to you. Do you have any idea where she might have gone? Somewhere she might have felt safe?