Obviously, it's okay not to want to sleep with a) a dude and/or b) someone whose job is to serve you in someway, because that does throw things off. But, quantifiable descriptor or no, there was really no reason to bring gender up if you weren't going to sleep with said bellhop anyway, as the power dynamic is skewed. Not to mention, you began by answering my questioning your overreaction by explicitly saying it was about not wanting a male hooker. Am I keeping up?