Re: Max M / Luke H You are just a magnet for a fucked up life, kid He's four? You probably want to start easing him into it. They'll ask next year when he's at school - teachers, other kids, and you don't want to spring it on him when he's dealing with kindergarten. Do you have a backup guardian? Also, if you don't have a paperwork for custody if something happens to you? Now is a good time to do that too.