Re: Ashleigh/Casey
Read a science book, Ash. Fucking Christ.
You're telling me is that this is a catastrophe because of us? We've done this to you, we've turned it into a catastrophe? All I'm hearing is you blaming everyone else for your mistakes and problems. All I'm hearing is you being selfish. All I'm hearing is you trying to play the martyr card.
You made the decision to see Alexander, you made the decision to not care what your family said about it, you made the decision to talk to me about your situation, you made the decision to label it a catastrophe. You made the decision to admit that you didn't want to get married. I'm drawing logical conclusions, if your goal was to goad me into expressing an opinion that you knew right off the bat you were going to disagree with, what has the point been?
I tried to tell you everything was going to be okay, you pouted. I tried to tell you I'd be here for you, you pouted, you kept telling me how awful it all was - and I said "well it doesn't have to be, here's option A." And you fucking threw that out the window, I was just trying to talk you through it in a rationale way. So that maybe it wouldn't be so hard of a decision to make. So it wouldn't feel like you were doing something wrong or bad. Because its not wrong or bad, Ash. It's not.
I don't appreciate being set up for failure. You may be acting like a child but you are over the age of 18 - so go crazy. Do what you want. But you can't just trample over people, and hurt them, truly hurt them, and then have the right to completely steamroll over them once again because you're in crisis mode.
Honestly, all I'm hearing is that you want to bring a child into this world because YOU would feel bad terminating the pregnancy. But quit acting like I'm not being sensible.
If you want to keep it, fine, keep it. But if you fully intend on seeing this through, and allowing that man - and his family - into our lives all over again, knowing what has happened, what are we supposed to think? Who in their right mind would support that when its a matter of safety for all of us at this point? You want to sit there and make us feel badly for the choices YOU made? Not very adult of you. I'm talking to you like you are a child because you are behaving like one.
And I don't care what your friends are doing, Ash. I care about what you're doing. You are my sister, and I love you, and I am scared for you. Do you want to end up with a fucking hole in your head once you cross them?
HE THINKS HE'S A MOTHER FUCKING VAMPIRE, ASHLEIGH
I've spent this entire conversation trying to tell you that everything would be okay. That's how I came into this, I'm the fucking voice of reason right now because I'm still trying to bridge gaps and create some semblance of normalcy for all of us. But one has to be willing to meet other halfway, and not set people up who are trying to help you. I want to help you. I've been trying. But for God's sake you're completely unreasonable.
If you don't want to terminate the pregnancy, then don't, but you had better think long and hard what the reasons are for that. Make sure they're the right reasons. The right reasons do not include "I'd feel guilty" "I'm lonely" "I made a mistake now I have to pay for it"
Right reasons include "I'm in a good position to have a child, and would be able to provide a child with a safe home, a life full of love, a stable and nurturing environment. And give a person the best chance at life that is possible." Or, you know, "I'm going to give it up for adoption to someone who can provide all of that."
So. Just think about what you're doing and why. And think about who you're pushing away and why. Think about it all long and hard. And when you're ready to have a grown up conversation about it - we can talk about it again. Ashleigh, we love you, you have no idea how much, and you have no idea how much we worry. But you don't care. You're the one making those decisions.
This isn't about some dude we don't approve of. This is about a handful of sociopaths who have decided to destroy the lives of people in YOUR family. I'd be outraged, and embarrassed to even entertain the idea of bringing this man anywhere near YOUR family.