I've seen the paperwork, but I want to know what the hell is actually going on. No one is going to begrudge you from wanting to play by the rules - but I'm curious as to how this blew out of proportion like this. She's mad at you, you're mad at her, I could give a shit about any of that. I want to know why it persisted. You're a grown up, she's a grown up, you can't just....Be grown ups at each other and ignore each other?
I want to know what went so wrong so I can work on fixing it. I'm not looking to point fingers, I'm looking to get a team operating appropriately.