Oh right. I see. After fourteen months concern would be the same as being mollycoddled.
No you're right, of course. Nothing you can do. Because when you've loved someone for a few months, it is important to consider their feelings over the person you claimed to love your whole life.. You're completely stuck and there's nothing you can do. Which is what you said with Gisborne. Maybe you just like being engaged to other men. I should take the hint.
I haven't asked you to do anything. You haven't noticed that you're just defensive. And once again have decided it's my fault. Because that's always been easier for you.