I don't always like what the grownups tell me to do either. And you know, sometimes Tony thinks he's doing the right thing but if it had been up to him, these bad guys would have stolen all kinds of important Avengers' tech and who knows if he'd have saved Dr. Strange without me.
But I really don't think they meant to hurt you guys. It probably did suck and you're right to be annoyed, but they didn't do it to be mean rude jerks.