1. Since Hem has to answer that as if it were two separate questions, that may be the answer in and of itself.
2. The greatest thing his parents taught him was to put family first. A simple concept, but one he holds dear. Of course, his real family falls in that lesson, but so does his close friends.
3. In an ideal world, Hem sees a large house in Upstate New York that they can all live in without having to be in each other's business all the time. He wants to be able for them all to live comfortably without worry of money and be the most kickass house that no one would want to break into.