Well, yes, exactly. It's that Sex as Conquest vs Sex as Collaboration thing. If the Conquest guys concede any kind of deception as possible rape, it's a slippery slope to disqualifying a whole category of valid battle strategy and giving the Other Team a huge edge.
Meanwhile we Collaboration types are standing over here in the corner going "THIS IS SERIOUSLY INSANE, HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THAT," but we're not even speaking the same language, so obviously we're not going to get through.