I guess I can understand where the furor comes from, then, and in light of those comments, I can see your point. For what it's worth, I think I agree with you. The Jedi are all those things you list. Occasionally misguided and incautious and while they almost always think they're in the right, many times they're simply not. But they try, and I'd have to say that in many cases, that's more than a lot of people will even bother to do.
Still, in her defense, the clone army troopers are essentially slaves and the Jedi, for the most part, seemed to have no problems at all treating them as expendable units. And I imagine that if it were me writing about those guys, I'd get a little bothered about it, too.
Likewise, it'd also be easier to portray the Mandalorians as the "good guys" even if they weren't. And I certainly wouldn't say their hands are clean. Fett (Both Jango and Boba) may have some kind of code of honor they adhere to, but they're still pretty ruthless mercenaries, and not nice people. Which is... pretty much how I see a lot of Mandalorians. Guys like Kal Skirata aren't really the norm, I don't think.
That being said, I still don't agree with her opinion, but I can at least kinda see where she's coming from. As for the Daala thing, well, I don't necessarily have a problem with the character, or even the direction other people might want to take her. It's just the way she was written when she was first conceived? Not good. I was not a fan of Kevin J. Anderson. Not the least because of what he did to Crix Madine. (Grumble.) I still have not forgiven the man for that.