I know what you mean. In general I have been trying to ignore canon since DH. But I needed to see for myself how Harry would feel about Snape, how we got to the epilogue. I think JKR failed us by not showing it at all but yet, it's great because I can choose to believe whatever I want. And as ridiculously sappy as it is, I like to think now "Severus" is loved as he ought to have been. I did always believe Harry would be the only one that ever truly understood Snape-not Dumbledore, not Lily but Harry. And in my mind he does love him (not in a Snarry sort of way-although clearly that come to mind for me too). I am actually crying writing this reply so that can tell you how strongly I feel about this. Or how insane I am. ;)
Sorry for carrying on so long-pretty soon this will be longer than the fic itself.