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Harry Dresden ([info]harry_dresden_) wrote in [info]compass_network,
@ 2013-05-06 16:06:00

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Is it just me or is this place an emotional sinkhole?


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[info]mostloyalruby
2013-05-06 05:35 pm UTC (link)
No way, not just you.

These people should make bitching an Olympic sport.

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[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 05:45 pm UTC (link)
But seeing as we don't know where we are, where would they compete for?

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[info]mostloyalruby
2013-05-06 06:21 pm UTC (link)
Who the fuck cares?

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 07:58 pm UTC (link)
If you pay attention to the whiners, yes.

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[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 08:04 pm UTC (link)
I have a tendency towards knight in shining armour syndrome is all

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:02 pm UTC (link)
I fail to understand why you would shame one for having emotions. They are not bad and ought be expressed freely and without reservation, and without judgment of those who do not understand the reason behind said emotion.

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[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 08:03 pm UTC (link)
I haven't mentioned shame man, that's your issue

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:05 pm UTC (link)
I am never ashamed to laugh, weep or feel joy. 'Whiners' Men call each other, too sensitive, they say. To feel is the 'womanly' thing to do. Nay, to feel is to live.

Why is it a bad thing?

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[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 08:10 pm UTC (link)
Again I never said whiners...and I feel plenty, maybe that's the problem with this place

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:11 pm UTC (link)
The Man above you did.

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[info]vanya_elenwe
2013-05-06 08:12 pm UTC (link)
To have feelings is 'womanly'?

Is that supposed to be a bad thing?

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:24 pm UTC (link)
Nay! Why would it be? We all feel.

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[info]vanya_elenwe
2013-05-06 08:26 pm UTC (link)
And expressing it is only to be honest with ourselves.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:28 pm UTC (link)
Yes, and a thing to be encouraged.

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[info]vanya_elenwe
2013-05-06 08:32 pm UTC (link)
Most certainly. I would not want any child of mine to believe that feelings are something to be embarrassed about.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:35 pm UTC (link)
You need not worry for our child; she hides nothing.

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[info]vanya_elenwe
2013-05-06 08:36 pm UTC (link)
Which is how I have always wanted it to be.

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 08:25 pm UTC (link)
I was the one who called people 'whiners'. I've done my share don't get me wrong, but constantly talking about your problems (and I don't mean you specifically) on an open forum isn't going to help anyone.

If a person can do something to fix what's bothering them then they should do so. If not then what cannot be cured must be endured.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:29 pm UTC (link)
It helps the person talking about them, I imagine, to speak of their issues. How will we ever know they are experiencing an issue if they are being shamed into silence instead of speaking?

While it is not our responsibility to make life okay for everyone or to reason out their anxieties, it should be our responsibility to let them speak in safe places where we will not judge them.

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 08:49 pm UTC (link)
Maybe that works for you elves, but in my experience people always judge each other whether they openly admit it or not.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:52 pm UTC (link)
Is it too much to ask for decency? I am not saying you cannot formulate an opinion. I think my brother an idiot, and many of his complaints childish. But I would never tell him not to express them.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 08:53 pm UTC (link)
Wretch.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:55 pm UTC (link)
Nymph.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:00 pm UTC (link)
Momma's boy.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:00 pm UTC (link)
I love my mother, thank you.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:01 pm UTC (link)
As do I!

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:01 pm UTC (link)
I do not mind being her favored child.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:02 pm UTC (link)
You mean her spoiled child.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:03 pm UTC (link)
Aye! I am her favorite.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:03 pm UTC (link)
Aye, but I am father's favorite son.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:06 pm UTC (link)
Aye, you are very like him. Like a small copy. Only more vain. And slightly less pretty.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:09 pm UTC (link)
Why does everyone insist on calling me vain!?

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:10 pm UTC (link)
Perhaps your fascination for gold and looking pretty. You are worse than a dragon.

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[info]findekano
2013-05-06 09:15 pm UTC (link)
I should have found Glaurung's hoarde!

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:16 pm UTC (link)
Aye, you should.

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[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 08:54 pm UTC (link)
You are saying we can't, you're saying we're wrong...sometimes you can't break apart even if you want to, until after things are done

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 08:59 pm UTC (link)
I am saying it is wrong to think emotional responses are wrong. If a thing bothers you and makes you feel in a particular way then you need not be ashamed.

And calling individuals whiners, or foolish for feeling, or anything other than a living, breathing being that can feel, is wrong.

You think someone stupid for complaining about the length of their tea towels, by all means, think them stupid! Only let them have space to speak of their complaints rather than telling them it is unimportant. Aye, it is not particularly life threatening, but you do not know their experiences.

Let them feel.

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 09:24 pm UTC (link)
I'm not saying to never express them, there's a time and a place. I'm not even saying most of the people here are whiners, but you stay here long enough and you get to see a pattern.

Maybe it tends to grate after a time.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:28 pm UTC (link)
Aye! It does, and you are just as entitled to feel annoyed, or slighted, or bothered by others as they are.

How long have you been here?

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 09:39 pm UTC (link)
Going on six months. Not as long as some of the others but longer than most.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 09:47 pm UTC (link)
I should think six months a breeze after four centuries. We have long lives ahead of us, and time flows differently. But aye, our experiences with it are different too.

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Connor
[info]harry_dresden_
2013-05-06 09:51 pm UTC (link)
Do you think all elves have superiority complexes or it's just this guy

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Dresden
[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 10:11 pm UTC (link)
I think all the elves and nearly everyone from Middle Earth. There must be something in the air or water there.

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Connor
[info]ghostwiththetea
2013-05-07 08:32 pm UTC (link)
Oh this is going to be fun

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ooc
[info]macleod1518
2013-05-08 01:54 am UTC (link)
Did you mean to use Annie? The message was filtered to Harry.

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[info]macleod1518
2013-05-06 10:08 pm UTC (link)
Five centuries, and normally you'd be right.

I'm not going to add to the angst, it is what it is. Until we find a way off this rock we just have to suck it up and deal with it.

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[info]turukano
2013-05-06 10:11 pm UTC (link)
Pardon me, five centuries. And indeed, I agree, we need common ground.

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